The Golden Rule Problem Choose to understand what motivates. Someone I know was proud of his consistency. Everyone around him got the same recognition, the same encouragement, the same standing Friday check-in. He thought that was what good treatment looked like. One of the best people around him walked away anyway, and what she said stuck with him for months: "He never asked me what I wanted. He just kept giving me what he would have wanted." There's the trap. The golden rule tells us to...